This is the story of how I broke free from that Mind-set:
My husband had brought up the topic of getting healthy before, but I would always fly off the handle. I'd cry and say that he didn't love me the way I was, and argue that I am FAT and you should love me as I am! I felt personally attacked because I still believed that being Fat and being Me were the SAME THING. For him to suggest that I should try to lose weight was a heartbreaking slap in the face!
I asked him, "Why did you married me if you don't love me the way I am?"
He assured me that he loved me and that he could not live with anyone else.
Then he asked me, "If you lost your finger are you still you?"
I said, "Yes."
"And I would still love you just as much. What if you lost your whole hand, would you still be you?"
Again I agreed that I would still be me.
He then asked, "If you lost some weight would you still be you?"
Here I wavered. I was a Fat Girl!!! Fat was ME!"
I got mad and argued "But I am FAT! That is WHO I AM!!!"
But I knew that wasn't true anymore, and my paradigm suddenly shifted! I was finally able to see that being me and being Fat were NOT the same, and I knew it was true! As soon as I accepted that thought I knew that I would be able to get healthy and lose weight, and I have!!!
Examine your life and see if there is something keeping you from your weight loss goals. You will only be successful once you truly believe you can succeed!!